I am a Functional Medicine Health Coach candidate and have loved learning about all of the ways to help others who are suffering (some who think it’s just normal to feel the way they do–in other words miserable) or those who could use just a transformation of some kind in their lives. Here, I’ll be sharing what I’ve learned from various sources, either through school or books, documentaries or links and posts from other sources that I think can be really helpful! They will be about relationships and personal growth, health concerns, stress transformation, Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, better sleep, inherited family trauma, resilience, mindfulness, travel ideas and anything else I think will be helpful to others. My one and only blog post prior to this was as avidadvicegiver and my sister can attest how much I love giving advice but I’ve been told I have a way of presenting the information that doesn’t seem to be preachy or offend or insult others (except maybe for my boyfriend!)
Mark Wolynn presented the themes of his book on a video chat on the 5th of May. The title of his book is It Didn’t Start With You: How Inherited Family Trauma Shapes Who We Are and How to End the Cycle was absolutely fascinating and could be life-changing for so may people. People who don’t even know that if their parents or grandparents experienced a trauma, it more than likely altered their genes, and it was passed down to them. The author talked about about his own experience with 3 of his grandparents losing their mothers at a very young age. His mother (and later he and his sister) were distraught whenever their mothers would leave the house. When the mother left, each of them would find their mothers clothes or scarves and smell them hoping to get a whiff of their mother’s scent. He could never explain why he needed to do this until he learned of this concept of inherited family trauma.
The really fascinating part is the idea of an ancestral alarm clock. He gave examples of people who have had trauma occur at a certain age or timeframe or milestone in the past. Family members then repeat the exact trauma at the same time. An example he gave was if your parents divorced when you were 8 years old, when your child is 8 years old it could trigger you and you would start to pull away and just think you’re losing affection/interest when really it could be tied back to your family trauma…
The Upside of Stress by Kelly McGonigal, PhD addresses both mindset and stress transformation. She explains that the effect you expect, is the effect you get. If you think stress is bad for you, your body produces chemicals that cause you harm. If you instead realize and believe that stress can be a good thing, your body follows suit. Fascinating and potentially life-changing information on both stress and mindset transformation. For mindset, transformation she mentions several studies that showed you can have a lasting impact on others when you tell them, for example, that they can succeed and make positive changes throughout life. When they believe this and take it to heart, it happens. If you think everyone is out to get you, you will see this everywhere you look. If you think people are nice, people will be nice to you. She cites two studies where mindset transformation occurred and it had lasting positive impacts for people. Highly recommend the book!!